May 1, 2022 Late Night Chat with Jeff Wolverton, topic: Controlling Anger, live on Zoom

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Dear folks of Baba,

He has said in His Discourses:

Anger is the fume of an irritated mind. It is caused by the thwarting of desires. It feeds the limited ego and is used for domination and aggression. It aims at removing the obstacles existing in the fulfillment of desires.

Baba has said that lust is connected to the gross body, greed to the subtle body and anger to the mental body. It is within the power of the aspirant to control the expression of lust and greed, but for anger it requires the grace and intervention of the Avatar or a Perfect Master. For this reason, don’t feel discouraged if you find that controlling anger is extremely difficult.

Baba has also said that “anger is the opposite of tolerance or patience.” Have you found that as you have become more tolerant and patient, your anger has diminished?

Bhau and Eruch, two of the mandali, talked about mock anger: expressing anger without being angry. When Bhau was asked how much of Eruch’s anger was mock anger, he said 100 percent. When asked about his own anger, he said 80 percent.

Have you ever witnessed someone expressing anger that seemed not to hurt or shame others (that is, without a barb behind it)? That is what the mandali described as mock anger.

To what extent do our own expectations of others’ behavior play in stirring up our anger? When others violate our cherished values, what we think is right, do we invariably react with anger? Could lowering our expectations of others enable us to better control our anger? Are others supposed to live according to our values?

Have you noticed that some people's anger seems to evaporate soon after it is expressed, whereas with others, even though anger is not expressed it goes in and creates an attitude of resentment and negative feeling that persists long after the situation which caused it?

How do you react to sarcasm from others?

What methods have you developed in dealing with anger?

To a friend who had trouble controlling his temper toward others, Eruch said that given he has lost his temper, he should apologize afterwards. The anticipated humiliation of having to apologize afterwards has actually helped curb his anger.

In His love, Jeff

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